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plenty of water
2. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar
3. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants, and eat less food that is
manufactured in plants
4. Live with the 3 E's -- Energy, Enthusiasm, and Empathy
5. Make time for prayer
6. Play more games
7. Read more books than you did in 2009
8.. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day
9. Sleep for 7 hours
10. Take a 10-30 minutes walk every day ---- and while you walk, smile
11. Don't compare your life to
others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
12. Don't have negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest
your energy in the positive present moment
13. Don't over do ; keep your limits
14. Don't take yourself so seriously ; no one else does
15. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip
16. Dream more while you are awake
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How to Win
Friends and Influence People
( Guidelines from Dale
Carnegie's " How to win friends and influence people" )
Fundamental Techniques in Handling People
- Don't criticize, condemn or complain.
- Give honest and sincere appreciation.
- Arouse in the other person an eager want.
Six ways to make people like you
- Become genuinely interested in other people.
- Remember that a person's name is to that
person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
- Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk
- Talk in terms of the other person's
- Make the other person feel important - and
do it sincerely.
Win people to your way of thinking
- The only way to get the best of an argument
is to avoid it.
- Show respect for the other person's
opinions. Never say, "You're wrong."
- If you are wrong, admit it quickly and
- Begin in a friendly way.
- Get the other person saying "yes,
- Let the other person do a great deal of the
- Let the other person feel that the idea is
his or hers.
- Try honestly to see things from the other
person's point of view.
- Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas
- Appeal to the nobler motives.
- Dramatize your ideas.
- Throw down a challenge.
Be a Leader: How to Change People Without
Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment
A leader's job often includes changing your
people's attitudes and behavior. Some suggestions to accomplish this:
- Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
- Call attention to people's mistakes
- Talk about your own mistakes before
criticizing the other person.
- Ask questions instead of giving direct
- Let the other person save face.
- Praise the slightest improvement and praise
every improvement. Be "hearty in your approbation and lavish in your
- Give the other person a fine reputation to
live up to.
- Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy
- Make the other person happy about doing the
thing you suggest.
( Courtesy: http://www.westegg.com/unmaintained/carnegie/win-friends.html
How to Stop
Worrying and Start Living
( Guidelines from Dale
Carnegie's "How to stop worrying and start living" )
Fundamental facts you should know about worry
- If you want to avoid worry, do what Sir
William Osler did: Live in "day-tight compartments." Don't stew
about the futures. Just live each day u ntil bedtime.
- The next time Trouble--with a Capital
T--backs you up in a corner, try the magic formula of Willis H. Carrier:
- Ask yourself, "What is the worst
that can possibly happen if I can't solve my problem?
- Prepare yourself mentally to accept the
- Then calmly try to improve upon the
worst--which you have already mentally agreed to accept.
- Remind yourself of the exorbitant price you
can pay for worry in terms of your health. "Those who do not know how
to fight worry die young."
Basic techniques in analyzing worry
- Get the facts. Remember that Dean Hawkes of Columbia
University said that "half the worry in the world is caused by
people trying to make decisions before they have sufficient knowledge on
which to base a decision."
- After carefully weighing all the facts, come
to a decision.
- Once a decision is carefully reached, act!
Get busy carrying out your decision--and dismiss all anxiety about the
- When you, or any of your associates, are
tempted to worry about a problem, write out and answer the following
- What is the problem?
- What is the cause of the problem?
- What are all possible solutions?
- What is the best solution?
How to break the worry habit before it breaks
- Crowd worry out of your mind by keeping
busy. Plenty of action is one of the best therapies ever devised for curing
- Don't fuss about trifles. Don't permit
little things--the mere termites of life--to ruin your happines.
- Use the law of averages to outlaw your
worries. Ask yourself: "What are the odds against this thing's
happening at all?"
- Co-operate with the inevitable. If you know
a circumstance is beyond your power to change or revise, say to yourself:
"It is so; it cannot be otherwise."
- Put a "stop-less" order on your
worries. Decide just how much anxiety a thing may be worth--and refuse to
give it anymore.
- Let the past bury its dead. Don't saw
Seven ways to cultivate a mental attitude that
will bring you peace and happiness
- Let's fill our minds with thoughts of peace,
courage, health, and hope, for "our life is what our thoughts make
- Let's never try to get even with our
enemies, because if we do we will hurt ourselves far more than we hurt them.
Let's do as General
Eisenhower does: let's never waste a minute thinking about people we
- Instead of worrying about ingratitude,
let's expect it. Let's remember that Jesus
healed ten lepers in one day--and only one thanked Him. Why should we
expect more gratitude than Jesus got?
- Let's remember that the only way to find
happiness is not to expect gratitude--but to give for the joy of giving.
- Let's remember that gratitude is a
"cultivated" trait; so if we want our children to be grateful,
we must train them to be grateful.
- Count your blessings--not your troubles!
- Let's not imitate others. Let's find
ourselves and be ourselves, for "envy is ignorance" and
"imitation is suicide."
- When fate hands us a lemon, let's try to
make a lemonade.
- Let's forget our own unhappiness--by trying
to create a little happiness for others. "When you are good to others,
you are best to yourself."
The perfect way to conquer worry
How to keep from worrying about criticism
- Unjust criticism is often a disguised
compliment. It often means that you have aroused jealousy and envy. Remember
that no one ever kicks a dead dog.
- Do the very best you can; and then put up
your old umbrella and keep the rain of criticism from running down the back
of your neck.
- Let's keep a record of the fool things we
have done and criticize ourselves. Since we can't hope to be perfect, let's
do what E.H. Little did: let's ask for unbiased, helpful, constructive
Six ways to prevent fatigue and worry and keep
your energy and spirits high
- Rest before you get tired.
- Learn to relax at your work.
- Learn to relax at home.
- Apply these four good workings habits:
- Clear your desk of all papers except
those relating to the immediate problem at hand.
- Do things in the order of their
- When you face a problem, solve it then
and there if you have the facts to make a decision.
- Learn to organize, deputize, and
- To prevent worry and fatigue, put enthusiasm
into your work.
- Remember, no one was ever killed by lack of
sleep. It is worrying about insomnia that does the damage--not the insomnia.
( Courtesy: http://www.westegg.com/unmaintained/carnegie/stop-worry.html